The wedding guest list can be one of the easiest or one of the hardest obstacles engaged couples have to navigate through. The truth about your guest list is that it is YOUR GUESTLIST! Not your parent’s, best friends or co-workers list…your list. Often times we encounter couples who feel extremely pressured by friends and family to invite a whole heap of people who they do not even truly know to their wedding because it will appease someone else. This can be a major source of aggravation and stress and who needs that when you are trying to be fabulous and plan your dream day? Not You!
We once had a couple who agreed upon a guest list of 270 guests (which included 7 children under the age of ten). Within two weeks of their wedding the bride’s mother had added almost 110 people AND their plus one’s to her daughter’s guest list. I promise, I am not making this up. These were her mother’s cousins, colleagues, nail tech, childhood friends and neighbors. The bride was the type of girl who always strived to make her mother happy and just could not bring herself to tell her mother no. The groom on the other hand was very vocal about not wanting all of these extra people at their wedding, but he eventually gave in. In the end, the bride’s mother ended up paying for these extra 220 individuals. But, the bride and groom ended up with wedding half full of strangers and people who they barely even knew! True Story.
When deciding who should be invited, Love Deluxe suggests you and your fiancé utilize this amazingly insightful guest grid (LD Guest Grid Download) will help you narrow down your guest count to reach your ideal number.
Sit down with your fiancé and answer these three key questions on your own individual sheets of paper:
- Which family members MUST be present to celebrate this day with us?
- Which close friends (excluding your bridal party) HAVE to be there to party with us?
- Who from our circles of influence (community organizations, community officials, church family, mentors, mentees etc.) would we LIKE to be there?
Next, list all of the individuals from work, school, church, intramural sports, neighbors, sorority/fraternity organizations etc.
Put a Yes, No or maybe next to the names of everyone you listed in step 2 if they meet the following criteria.
- Has this individual been a supportive champion of your relationship with your fiancé?
- Will this individual be a Turn Up Timmy (party animal) = YES or a Debby Downer = NO at your reception?
- Do you believe that this individual will mesh well with your most important wedding guests- your family?
Total up your number of Yes’s, No’s and Maybe’s. If there is more than one Maybe or No to any of the 3 criteria questions than have a serious discussion with your sweetheart. Remember, this day is about the two of you. You want people there who are going to celebrate your union! When in doubt, leave them out! For more information, tips and advice visit our amazing AEMA Love Deluxe Wedding Blog Here.
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